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Ultimate guide on Fear of Rejection in Dating

 

Single again?  As we travel through life, we often end up single.  There are many reasons why. It could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, cheating, lies, divorce, location, goals, and more. 

Losing a relationship impacts us in many ways.  It can be very painful, or it can be very refreshing, or anywhere in-between.  No matter what the cause or the degree of pain, there is one truth we all share: We don’t want to end up alone.  We want to find companionship.

In order to get into a new relationship, we have to be willing to meet and go out with people. It’s our own fear, however, that often gets in the way.

  •   We fear getting rejected.
  •   We fear having a bad time.
  •   We fear getting hurt.
  •  We fear having to reject someone else.

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All these fears are valid yet easily overcome.  If someone rejects you, it only means that that person feels you are not right for them.  Believe me, there is someone else who would love to be with you. You have to accept rejection. It is only through trying do we get to the right person.

Many dates and relationships don’t work out.  You may look back and think of it as a bad time.  It is all right to have a bad time.  Only through bad dates do we get to the good dates.

It is through our bad relationships that we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want, to then approach relationships with more knowledge to succeed.

No one wants to get hurt but if we do not dare to fall in love and get hurt, we cannot be in love. Getting hurt is part of the process.  We do get through it and the pain does go away.  The best part is there is new love waiting for you.

You may also be fearful of rejecting someone.  The truth is no one is obligated to stay with someone who isn’t right for them.  Rejection is part of the dating and relationship process.

Change how you look at rejection and see it as a favor.  When you reject someone you are releasing him or her to go find someone who will truly appreciate that person.

Look at it that way also when someone rejects you.  After all, do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want you?  It’s better to be free to find someone who actually wants to be with you.

Can you predict the future?  I can’t.  In fact, most of us don’t think we can.  Yet we continue to believe in self-limiting thoughts about the future.  We believe so firmly in these thoughts we allow them to stop us from moving forward and realizing opportunities.

Instead of predicting pain, I can predict for you that if you embrace the dating process instead of watching life pass you by, you will have both good and bad times.  I can also predict that these good and bad times will lead you to even better times.

Embrace the journey and release your fear.

Approach Women Without Fear Of Rejection

Are you having trouble with attracting and seducing any hot women you meet?

Well if so, then pay close attention to what I’m about to tell you…

If you’re interested in increasing your overall success with women, then you should learn ONE important thing. It’s being able to approach women WITHOUT any fear of rejection!

I know this sounds simplistic, but many guys have major problems with this one aspect of their dating lives. They’re afraid to approach hot women because they worry about what could go wrong. Typically a lot of men get nervous thinking about what a woman will say and how she might reject him.

Now it’s possible for you to attract and seduce a beautiful woman. All you have to do is learn how to overcome your fear of rejection. By confidently walking up to a woman with NO fear of rejection, you’ll instantly become an attractive guy who has a seductive personality.

Here’s an example to illustrate this point…

One of my good friends is able to attract and seduce many beautiful women because he has almost no fear of rejection. While he knows he’s might be rejected, he’s able to eliminate all negative thought patterns. Instead he simply focuses on his approach and initiating conversations with women.

As you can see, the guys with no fear of rejection are able to increase their overall success with women. So if you learn to cultivate this personality, you’ll find that you’ll become better with women.

All you have to do is learn how to act confidently on all interactions with women. When you’re talking to women, simply concentrate on the conversation and work at eradicating all negative thoughts. Just relax and enjoy the conversation.

So if you’re intimidated by women, you need to work on building your confidence and become comfortable with approaching hot women. If you see an attractive woman, then you should immediately approach her.

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When you get into the practice of approaching all hot women you see, you’re nervousness and fears will quickly fade away.

Once you get into a pattern of approaching women and initiating conversations with women, you’ll experience a dramatic increase in your success.

Even if you’re only able to pick up a woman once in awhile, you’ll at least have more experience with your approach techniques. Also, you’ll be closer towards eliminating your fear of rejection.

Attracting and seducing hot women is possible. But if you let your fears and nervousness get in the way, you’ll have little chance of success. All you have to do is practice your approach techniques and become more confident, then you’ll master the art of attraction.

How to Deal with Rejection from Women

Are women actually interested in you when they first see you? Or is it that they are interested in what they are seeing as a reflection of their own ideals and expectations?

And what about when women reject you or don’t even give you a chance?  Has this hurt you before even though other guys will tell you not to take it personally or to just ‘keep on approaching and you’ll get over it’?

Well I’m going to help you deal with this ‘rejection’ and set it more straight right now (for free).

What’s really going on are many different things and on different levels.

I want you to be able to differentiate a woman’s response to you so that you can understand it so that it doesn’t hurt you or even affect you but rather that you can learn what hasn’t been working and take advantage of what does work.

When a woman sees you for the first time, she is extrapolating every little detail about you to determine whether you might be a fit for her.

In the future I will get deeply into getting yourself to the point where you are communicating that you are everything she could want even if you don’t have the best looks or money, age, etc.

But for now, this data that she is judging off of you is either working for you or against you.  You may have had women blow you off or flat out reject you after you approached and started talking or they never even gave you a chance before you approached.

Is this something you should take personally?

I don’t want to give you a shallow answer, I want to give you the MEANING behind it; the schematics and reasoning so bear with me and it will be worth it.

Does a woman even know you when they she first sees you?

Then how can you possibly accept any kind of rejection?

Just because you approached her and she rejected you does not mean that you have a low character or are undesirable.

Does it?

Here’s the bad news; some of the readers out there may actually have a low character and the women ARE judging accurately (albeit without knowing more b/c they feel they don’t need or want to find out more).

This can all be changed so that any man can not only more accurately portray more of what she is attracted to but actually BE that man in congruity. The primary key is for him to get in touch with his own natural/ universal character and stop relying so much on his limited independent or social character.

The rest of the guys probably do have a higher independent or social character but just aren’t being themselves when they approach a woman.  They’re using a pick-up persona or player front or they’re just being a nice guy (overly nice and not their true self).

Otherwise they’re just not in touch with their natural/universal character in order to spark attraction anyways. Too many guys these days (and it’s being taught) are focusing on the social and even independent (I’m a nice guy) parts of their character when it comes to attracting women.

They do what society says and when women don’t respond, they get flustered.This sets a man up for rejection because these two areas are the least important and are what women respond to the least when it comes to attraction and her wanting you; it’s just really hard to see through it when women have become the rulers of the social ‘matrix’.  Natural order is flipped around so you just have to see through all of the social influence and deal with her biology.

So if you are focusing on your social ‘pick up game’ you’re going to have to get real good at it and then because of your high character, the charts work in reverse so that eventually she may feel a spark of attraction.  In other words:

You have to talk her into it and let her realize that you are a man of high character. This takes longer because you started on the wrong end of the character continuum in your communication and portrayal of yourself to her.

Like I said it also sets you up for failure because you have to get all of the words just right and her temperance is wavering.

Hopefully this will help you understand why men are rejected more and perhaps yourself in the past sometimes.

Understanding it is key to putting it in it’s place and then changing to do the more effective things.

When you are a man of high natural/universal character and communicate this with your body language (often enough alone), the universal/natural part of the woman knows to respond to you and you don’t have to use words.

She is pre-wired to know how to respond and be attracted to a man that has a strong connection to his universal/natural (which used to be almost all men but people were more localized then).

Today, very few men are in full touch with this and those that are, are the guys that are scoring the most with women.  It’s that simple. When you can get in touch with the natural/universal power that is greater than you and (is your inheritance)

You won’t even have to deal with rejection anymore because you’ll be able to read and communicate with women on the nonverbal level (the unspoken), that which was formerly invisible.

So back to the rejection issue… when a woman sees you and you aren’t effectively communicating that you are a man of high character (either in-congruently or because you just aren’t there yet), she most likely won’t give you a chance.

The key is to understand where you are on the character continuum.

If you ARE a great (nice) guy, then remember that she is just judging her initial impression of you.  You may have a high independent character and be a great guy so just separate that from the fact that you were currently LOW on the natural/ universal part of your character and that is the part she was disapproving of, not YOU.

So don’t take it personally.  When you do develop a high character across the charts not only will you never have to deal with rejection again but when you play it by certain rules (your rules) SHE will be the one who is rejected or disqualifying herself to you and you will have the power by far.

You will always have the last word.

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All you really have to have even if you have a low independent and social character/status is a strong connection to your natural ability (esp. if you aren’t good looking, poor or are much older).

So if you’ve been focusing on the social character and using techniques and pick-up lines to develop your character to be able to pick a woman up…just consider working on your natural/ universal character instead; it’s what matters so much that a woman will HELP you pick her up by giving the right signals when you do have a high character.  You won’t even need pick up lines then.

In fact it’s not until recently that we actually had pick up lines or a need to study this.  You just have to differentiate the forced reality from the natural, timeless reality of attraction and female response and separate out all of what doesn’t matter (such as her fickle independent/social character when it comes to attraction and don’t deal with it).

Prevent rejection and isolate the possibility of it by understanding the model magnet system and charts.  She isn’t rejecting you, she’s just placing a perception onto you and judging you initially to see if you meet her expected response/ideal.

I like to say;

She can’t sleep with a man of low (m.m.) character just as much as you can’t sleep with an ugly, fat chick. And if you’ve taken one for the home team, that’s about as often as she slept with a man of low character (despite his looks).

So make sure that you not only communicate the right things but BE the man of the highest character that you can. It’s more important than your social character/status or your own inner game and personality, it’s about your connection to the universal power of masculinity and secure inner strength.

The feminine energy in her will rule over her fickle independent behavior and her body just may not be able to resist.  This can all happen within a few seconds of her seeing you.

At this point women will be approaching you like crazy and throwing out all kinds of signs because this kind of man who is in touch is so rare these days.  The works already cut out for you.

What would it be worth for you to turn the tables, never get rejected and live that kind of lifestyle with women no MATTER your looks, age, income or social status?

It’s not a trick.  It’s real.  And it’s every man’s inheritance but he has to embrace and accept it.  I am the messenger because this power is greater than the greatest of any man in history’s own independent character.

You don’t have to be a superstar pick up character, you just have to be a man of (natural) character and you’ll be able to catch women’s interest just by walking in the room.

And when you’re already spurring attraction in her and she can trust you by your body language, there’s less of a chance you’ll get rejected anyways.  And if you’re living in a dominant reality where she is attracted to you and wants to be plus take the natural approach you can prevent rejection entirely.

In Conclusion:

You don’t have to let failed attempts in relationships and dating prevent you from finding the right relationship for you.  Learn how to embrace rejection and fear.

 

 

 

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